We’ve all been there before. We meet someone, we start liking them, we get to know them, we fall for them, and we build dreams around them, only to realize that they weren’t the blessing we hoped for, but more like another lesson in disguise. Someone who tests our boundaries, reveals our blind spots, and helps us discover our own weaknesses and shortcomings.
The ‘wrong’ people in our lives cause us so much pain; they hurt us, betray us, disappoint us, and sometimes leave when we need them the most. They leave us feeling angry, confused, and even foolish for trusting them, like we handed them all the bullets to shoot us with. But it’s in these moments that trusting God becomes essential, because even the wrong people serve a purpose; their presence isn’t meaningless.
Maybe there’s a part of you that needs to change, a lesson about self-worth and what you should not tolerate moving forward. Maybe there’s a part of you that sees the red flags but ignores them or invests or trusts too soon. Maybe your good heart makes you believe that everyone means what they say and they have the same intentions as you. Maybe you feel the need to please others even when you’re hurting. Maybe there’s a part of you that thinks you don’t deserve more.
The truth is, the wrong people show us exactly what we need to work on, and how our insecurities led us to their arms. Maybe God is teaching you to know who belongs in your life and who is only passing through. Trusting God doesn’t remove the pain or the anger, but it gives us the strength to see the bigger picture, to believe that every encounter, even the painful ones, has a purpose bigger than just our heartbreak and that these experiences tell us more about ourselves than about people.
I know it’s not easy to accept the lessons the wrong people bring. Our hearts bleed, our minds replay the betrayals and we long for answers and closure. But in time, we begin to see the gifts or the ‘blessings in disguise’ hidden within the struggle. We begin to understand that if those people stayed a little longer, we would have lost ourselves, the wounds would have been deeper and the fall would have been harder to recover from.
The wrong people may leave scars, but they also uncover truths that stay with us forever and give us more wisdom and courage to love better, set healthier boundaries and embrace the people and opportunities that are truly meant to stay.
