Missing someone does not mean you should return to what hurt you.
“Why do I still miss people who hurt me?”
God:
You are mourning the love you poured into them, not the pain they left behind.
I created you with the capacity to love fully, and that capacity is a gift, even when it aches.
– Jacqueline Whitney
It is completely natural that your heart is still tender. When you love deeply, you do not simply turn off that tenderness the moment a relationship ends or a boundary is drawn. You are missing the beautiful moments, the shared quiet, and the version of them you truly believed in.
Do not judge yourself for grieving. Missing someone does not mean you made the wrong choice by letting them go, and it does not mean you should walk back into a room that shrank your spirit. It simply means you have a soft, honest heart that cares deeply.
I created you with the capacity to love fully, and that capacity is a gift, even when it aches.
You are allowed to miss the warmth you once felt while still choosing to protect your peace. Hold your boundaries gently. You can forgive the past from a distance, honor the love that was there, and still trust that I am guiding you toward connections that will honor your heart without ever breaking it.
Jacqueline Whitney is the author Held: A 50 Day Devotional For Parents and All That You Deserve.
